Thursday, August 7, 2008
Is that everything?
I'm a very cynical person. So are most of the people in my family. I guess we're that way from getting burned in the past and learning the hard way to be more aware. I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, but sometimes that's so hard. Especially when I've known someone for years and I still wonder if I'm getting all there is to know.
I am a firm believer that if I purposely avoid telling someone the truth when I am asked about a specific issue, even if I'm remaining silent because I don't want to hurt their feelings, that I am being deceptive. Therefore, if I ask someone about something specific and that person responds with vague statements that don't fully address the issue, then I feel that person is being deceptive to me. (And, it's even worse when I keep bringing up the issue so it's obvious I'm trying to work through something!!!) I don't want to be deceived, particularly by anyone close to me. Tell me the truth whether I like it or not and we'll deal with it. Life will continue to move forward.
How am I supposed to deal with not knowing if I'm being told the truth by someone very close to me? I've asked questions, I've received answers, but I know there is more to the story. I just want FULL disclosure so I can prepare for the future. I'm not good with ambiguity. I like to know what I need to prepare for even if whatever will happen is a year from now.
So, if you're reading this and you have a close relationship with me, and you know there is an unresolved issue between us...just spill the beans already!!! Have enough faith in me that I can deal with it.
I'm a lot stronger than you may think.